Ep 211 - Reaching for the next level

[00:00:00] Have you ever thought about what it takes for you to reach that next level and whether

[00:00:05] not it's fear?

[00:00:06] Well, this week on The Thinking Effect we're going to talk about ways that you can conquer

[00:00:10] fear and dive deeper into your dreams.

[00:00:15] Stay tuned.

[00:00:26] Not to sound cliche, but don't be afraid to try things and make mistakes.

[00:00:32] One of the biggest fears that I've seen in myself at one point was what if I mess up

[00:00:38] in front of people?

[00:00:42] For a long time I had a speech impediment so I always started to start to start to

[00:00:46] start to start to start.

[00:00:47] And I think because of that I wouldn't really speak up as much like meetings and stuff for

[00:00:55] the years when I worked at certain jobs.

[00:00:57] I wouldn't speak up, I wouldn't say anything because I didn't want it to seem as if I didn't

[00:01:05] know what I was talking about and then I had to think about it.

[00:01:09] Most of the time you're putting a two-room for one or two things, one of two reasons.

[00:01:16] You're put into that room.

[00:01:18] I would say basically for two reasons.

[00:01:21] Two reasons you are putting two-room.

[00:01:25] You are putting two-room with other people to learn something and to give your input.

[00:01:36] If you were not qualified to do either one, you would have not been invited in that room

[00:01:44] or you would have been asked to leave.

[00:01:50] And that's in any room.

[00:01:51] That's in social media circles, that's in work, that's in family.

[00:02:00] And I think sometimes from what I've learned in my experience we let...

[00:02:07] Well I would let my emotions get in the way of saying certain things because I would feel

[00:02:13] as if I was going to lose my temper, which is a lack of control of my emotions and

[00:02:23] or I felt like it would be better for me not to say something because I didn't want

[00:02:29] to hurt someone's feelings.

[00:02:32] And I think that not saying anything is worse than saying something because when you start

[00:02:41] to have those difficult conversations and you open up the dialogue and you have a

[00:02:48] respect for another person that's speaking and you allow them to speak and sort of listen

[00:02:57] unbiased or with just a sense of open-mindedness, it helps...it helps you to grow.

[00:03:09] And I think that from my content, I want people to look at it and say, you know, it's not

[00:03:17] perfect.

[00:03:19] The music is not perfect but it's real.

[00:03:23] Like you can relate to it.

[00:03:27] When you look at the stories, it's like wow yeah this guy reads books and he works out

[00:03:34] and he has a deep connection with his family and he has a deep connection with helping

[00:03:44] other people and it's not something that I need to be put on a pedestal for or pat on

[00:03:52] the back because I do things, I do it within my purpose.

[00:03:58] I have a saying to where I live in abundance so I give in abundance.

[00:04:05] So my mind is already in the frame of mind that I'm a billionaire and how would I function

[00:04:13] as a billionaire?

[00:04:14] So now I've accumulated these riches, now what am I going to do with it?

[00:04:19] It's pretty much the same thing I'm doing right now.

[00:04:22] Let's share my experience with you and in hopes of you taking something away and planting

[00:04:29] a seed so that you could reach your level of whatever it is that you want to achieve without

[00:04:36] fear being in the way.

[00:04:37] And the long winded way, that's my response.

[00:04:44] Because we get so stuck at a job because we're like okay this is a study flow of income

[00:04:49] and we have to take that leap, that leap of faith and say you know what I'm just calling

[00:04:55] you to see what can happen.

[00:05:01] You got to start with a single step.

[00:05:05] You got to take single steps consistently like if you don't work at something on a consistent

[00:05:12] basis or literally if you're just too tired then I don't know what to tell you.

[00:05:19] Being tired is part of it like so many nights I've gone to sleep, listening to beats,

[00:05:26] writing rhymes, research and stuff like literally just falling asleep because I'm tired.

[00:05:37] But if I didn't develop the mental toughness to know that that's part of the process or think

[00:05:44] of ways in which I could get more energy or squeeze out more energy in a day if that

[00:05:51] means you know going to bed half an hour earlier eating particular foods that give me a

[00:05:57] lot of energy.

[00:05:58] But the biggest thing is like staying away from negative people in their bullshit and even

[00:06:06] if I don't know people personally I would say I follow people on social media that are

[00:06:14] pretty much on that path they are where I want to be so if you have to look at those

[00:06:20] people that you aspire to be like you follow them, understand their deeper meaning as

[00:06:27] to why they're doing what they do and see how much of that you can soak up because you

[00:06:35] know I've always wanted to tell a story this is going to be really really quick.

[00:06:40] I've never really been a great driver, I'm a good driver my dad has driven since he was

[00:06:47] 15 years old maybe younger than that and when it came time for me to take my road test

[00:06:56] I asked my dad to teach me how to parallel park and he took me up into the Bronx we find

[00:07:02] a wide parking space and he sat on a milk crate against a fence I don't forget this

[00:07:08] and he's on the phone with one of his chicks or whatever and he just literally had me

[00:07:14] to pull out back into the space no crooked do it again and for like 60 to 90 minutes I

[00:07:25] just did that one thing that's all that I would do where am I going with this the people

[00:07:34] that you follow my dad is already literally like a master driver since 15 you know 50

[00:07:43] years on the road easily hazardous transportation box cars you name the vehicle he's driven

[00:07:50] bus oil truck cab whatever it is you want to get the skillset from the people who are already

[00:08:00] there so you got to look at those people and soak up learn part of that that energy learn

[00:08:10] it to at least to where you understand it even if it's not something that you could do

[00:08:16] naturally but learn it to where you understand it do it to the best of your ability and now

[00:08:23] once you understand it on the flip side now you want to partner with somebody who doesn't

[00:08:29] really good but now you have the understanding to know whether or not this person is bullshit

[00:08:34] in you and what they can do because you don't want to be the type of person you know you start

[00:08:40] the business and you start hiring people because they say oh yeah I can build your website

[00:08:45] oh yeah I can do your marketing they could do all this and you're pouring thousands of dollars

[00:08:49] into these people and services and then it doesn't come out the way that you wanted it to come out

[00:08:55] a because you didn't have the vision to see it clear or b you didn't take the time to understand

[00:09:01] what goes into the process so for the people who are fearful you know you sort of have to get

[00:09:07] that mentor whether in person or virtually and soak up as much as you can until you just get

[00:09:16] that little bit of courage because that's all it takes it just takes that like when you really

[00:09:21] start thinking about how we moving out here and the people are successful it's not leaves and

[00:09:25] bounds that that other person has just done a little bit more than you they've studied just a

[00:09:31] little bit more than you and you just take it from there this is the thinking effect

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