3 Ways to Face your Fears

[00:00:00] This is The Thinking Effect where we help you do your Daily Best Nami Holds Tom Danger 3 Ways To Face Your Fears, and always like to start with a story. I remember the first time I had to get up in front of a crowd and speak.

[00:00:19] I was probably in the fourth grade and my teacher was Miss Marshall and she said that she could teach me how to speak in front of a crowd. Now the first time I got up in front of an audience, naturally I thought everybody is just staring at

[00:00:36] me and they're going to make fun of me. You know, on top of that, I used to start a really really bad. I still started now from time to time. It's just I take my time even when I'm excited so it doesn't

[00:00:49] come out, you know, gibberish. I take a pause. That's what you do. You take a pause if you're working sometimes. But I remember getting on the stage and I had practice for a while.

[00:01:05] And once I actually went through what my little speech that was only about two minutes, it was all right. It was all right. And most of the fear that I faced in that moment,

[00:01:24] actually, I put it on myself. It wasn't the crowd. It was me. In my mind, I was thinking that people are going to make fun of me or people are going to judge me and say that

[00:01:38] I couldn't speak well or I looked funny or I sound funny. Right. So I would say that one of the first ways that you can face your fears or stop judging yourself negatively, like

[00:01:56] that negative self talk does you know good. You know, you have a, like, like for those of you who are relationships, you ever have something to happen with your partner and you think

[00:02:08] something is wrong or like then that speaking to you or then that as chatty is what they are usually in an all of a sudden and your mind you start thinking like well, what did I do? Well, maybe I did

[00:02:18] something wrong and it's going to piss them off. And you know, and then you go and ask them like what was up? And they say I'm like, right, I'm cool. I just got something on my mind. Nothing to do with you. But

[00:02:28] in your mind you already started to put things in play to make it seem as if it was something I was happening when it's not. Right? So you have to figure out how to flip that and we move into

[00:02:43] number two, which is you have to have positive self talk. Now before I got on that stage I knew that preparation was the key. There are certain strategies that you can use when

[00:02:58] when you speak and publicly, you know, taking a pause not looking directly at the audience but looking at the back of the audience like looking at the back of the wall or one person all

[00:03:10] way in the back this way it looks as if you're communicating with different people in the crowd ways that you can position your hand in your pocket or hold something to sort of offset

[00:03:22] that nervousness or fear, there are certain things that you can do but more than anything you have to tell yourself that you can do it. You can do it. You got this every morning just tell

[00:03:37] yourself in the mirror you got this. Today is going to be a great day I know it sounds cliche but I'm telling you it works. It will help you with your fears. I'm going to get through this. You can

[00:03:49] get through this, you can make it. Getting to have it giving yourself positive talk and then the last thing and also remember from being on the stage is that just before I began like my stomach

[00:04:06] would be in knots and that would always just have to take a breath, have to slow down. You know when you get really nervous and your body begins to tense up and that fear is starting to eat at you.

[00:04:29] You got to breathe, you got to slow down and take a breath. Now, is this to say that this can be applied to everything? I would honestly say yes because most things in life are more crucial

[00:04:45] in our minds when we think about it and how we think about it, the what it is in reality you know your mind can create your reality. So if you can stop with the negative talk and count it at

[00:04:58] a positive talk and when you are in a fearful situation take a moment in breath and express yourself and that's saying something while like a dog is chasing you, no get out the way. You're like fight

[00:05:10] of flight, right? We're talking where you have the ability to control what you say and how you respond in a particular environment. I would like to hear what subjects you would like for us to talk

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